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Captain James T. Kirk ([personal profile] captaincocksure) wrote in [community profile] askandanswer2014-10-05 07:31 pm
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[Jim moves up to the podium like a man who wears authority well: confident strides, straight back, a clear mission. For a moment it might seem the piazza is in for some rousing speech or recruiting presentation.

But when he turns to face the assembled, there's a seriousness to his expression. A slight drooping of those squared shoulders, as if burdened.]


How do you move on from loss?
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[personal profile] polyglot 2014-10-06 02:40 am (UTC)(link)
Time.

( sorry for your loss, bro. no, really. she's sorry. sorry enough to actually speak gently to him, for once. )
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[personal profile] silette 2014-10-06 03:14 am (UTC)(link)
You stop asking shit like that. You realize that even posing the question is constructing one more layer of being unable to cope between you and the awful truth, and that you've only done it because you think you were supposed to. You give into the grief and you come out of it later. Or you don't.

[ "300% more intense than necessary": quite possibly the subtitle of Claire DeWitt's future memoirs. Other possible subtitles include "probably understandable if you choose not to take any advice from this walking wreck of a human being" and "please stop chain smoking." ]
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[personal profile] silette 2014-10-06 03:52 am (UTC)(link)
[ Yeah, she'll bet, you unfairly heroic-looking guy with the noble demeanor and whatnot. Claire can't really bring herself to hate Kirk for being Kirk, though. Mild resentment at best, easily exhaled with her smoke.

(Away from Kirk, she's not a total asshole.) ]


You'll come out of it. Anyone can see that.
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[personal profile] joined 2014-10-06 03:50 am (UTC)(link)
It varies, but most of the time people don't necessarily move on so much as they learn to cope with whatever that absence happens to be. Not moving on and wanting to hold onto what you've lost, especially if it means a great deal to you, is perfectly normal as long as you're not letting that loss stop you from living your life.
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[personal profile] meanwhileback 2014-10-06 03:52 am (UTC)(link)
Learn to stop giving so many fucks. Like, seriously. You need those fucks. Quit giving them away. Make them bitches pay for your fucks.
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[personal profile] meanwhileback 2014-10-06 06:21 am (UTC)(link)
Never underestimate the power of a good fuck.

[It's... it's not that she SMILES here, exactly, it's more that she. Bares her teeth at him.]
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[personal profile] peratic 2014-10-06 04:31 am (UTC)(link)
You don't. Those are now fixed points in whoever is left behind. They learn to cope the same way they learn to cope with missing limbs and chronic pain. Like how water learns to go around new stones in a river.

[ You, whoever, they. Her tone is empathetic, anyway, a little quieter than usual. ]

Healing is a natural thing, if that helps. It happens of its own accord, as long as it isn't disrupted.
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[personal profile] peratic 2014-10-06 11:41 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, the same things that might aggravate a physical injury. And we all have our little self-destructive behaviors.
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[personal profile] peratic 2014-10-08 06:43 am (UTC)(link)
Both. Whichever a given individual is most inclined toward.
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[personal profile] sem_tor 2014-10-06 04:20 pm (UTC)(link)
[ He stands at perfect attention, expression as stoic as ever. Or is it? If you squint very hard - know him well enough - you can detect the faintest hint of sadness. ]

Continuing your routine... and work.

[ His voice doesn't waver. It is, unfortunately, the best advice a Vulcan can give. ]
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[personal profile] sem_tor 2014-10-07 02:31 am (UTC)(link)
[ In return for the stare, he shall receive an inquisitive eyebrow. It's hardly , as Humans would say, Rocket Science.

But they press on. He nods.
]

It is understandable, Captain. I believe time to be the only option otherwise.
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[personal profile] sem_tor 2014-10-08 05:01 pm (UTC)(link)
Spock gives a huff of a breath that one might mistake for an amused gesture. The observation is certainly odd.

That is quite the understatement.

[ However, there is something he feels he should do. This is how Humans function and he does wish to acknowledge their customs. Jim has always been respectful about Vulcan ones, for all of his talk otherwise. ]

I am... Sorry, Jim. He was my captain as well.

[ In his timeline, that is. Bit confusing there, but he's trying with all his might to express he has a loss as well. It's different, but it is a loss. ]
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[personal profile] sem_tor 2014-10-11 03:31 am (UTC)(link)
[ Spock rests a hand on Kirk's shoulder. The position is odd, not one someone would mistake for comforting. It seems almost as if he is going for a nerve pinch never fully realized. It... is really the only natural way for him his hand fits there. He knows a small touch - thankfully through clothing - is considered desirable for times of sympathy. ]

I would find that conclusion most correct, Captain.
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[personal profile] moralabsolutism 2014-10-06 10:38 pm (UTC)(link)
You don't. Must move on. Or break down.

[Rorschach's slightly muffled voice sounds completely detached. He'd lost everything at one point or another. His partner, his identity, even the streets he had once roamed to fight crime were now just rubble on the ground. What he'd learned from it all amounted to nothing. Life merely took and took until there was nothing left.]
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[personal profile] moralabsolutism 2014-10-09 01:18 am (UTC)(link)
Then you are weak.

[There's no attempt to sugarcoat the words, less out of a sense of meanness and more from a general lack of tact. He's never been good at talking to people at the best of times.]

Must find strength from within. Everyone has it.
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[personal profile] stickseller 2014-10-09 08:18 am (UTC)(link)
(Howard waits until Jim's off the stage to find him, mostly because his answer, while a traditional one, is one filled with taboo, and he has a public face to keep on. Jim reminds him of himself. The comfort on the stage, in his movements, at least, that was until he question was asked.

And that's why he's willing to be honest. Partially, at least.)


Alcohol.
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[personal profile] stickseller 2014-10-10 09:02 am (UTC)(link)
He sounds like my kind of doctor.

(There's a light shrug of his shoulders, it's certainly his main medicine in coping with loss, after all, though he's not going to divulge too much of himself at this point in time.)

There's work, too. Dames. I think distraction is the key to most ways people deal with it.
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[personal profile] stickseller 2014-10-14 09:58 am (UTC)(link)
You just have to know when the right time to do it is.

(Ah, the joy of the multiverse, because Howard has no idea who you are. He simply sees a man dealing with problems he too struggles with, loathe as he is to admit to that.)

Work has always been my distraction of choice, for some reason people frown on that too sometimes. Find what makes you, not others happy. (A pause.) What type of ship do you have?