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[innerkitty]

Why is it people are always so eager to fall in love?

[Every time she's witnessed or been involved in love, it's just been a lot of pain for both parties.]

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[gulistan]

Lots of reasons, I'd guess. The evolutionary drive of pack animals; a pair with a common goal has it easier than a loner. Books and movies make it look like the pinnacle of life's experiences. They're afraid of being lonely. They think love means happiness, or they mistake it for infatuation.

But I don't know. I've known a lot of people who do everything they can to avoid falling in love, and they seem to get it the worst. Maybe being open to it is a form of self-preservation.

[innerkitty]

See, and that's why pack animals are stupid. You can get plenty of companionship without needing to bare your heart like that. I'd rather live my life with a series of one night stands.

[gulistan]

It's not stupid, per se, it's just driven by what is survival-oriented instead of what is about protecting yourself emotionally. Those are instincts that are more about food than feelings. In fact, one could theorize humans developed those feelings to promote more pair bonding.

I've never had so much as a one night stand, though, so I can only speculate.

Sorry, this has been a rough week, lol

[innerkitty]

And through the centuries all it's done is cause varying degrees of pain. Cheating and death, ripping your heart out when they leave. You don't exactly need a lasting partner to be able to have children if that's what you want. Hell, my sister does just fine with just her and her girls.

Oh, you should give it a try. It's thrilling in all the right ways.

[fuckvampires]

Disney.

[innerkitty]

And we all know Disney is full of lies.

[fuckvampires]

Well, I'm sure, but you got all this shit indoctrinating folks from diapers up that love is super great and easy. Then the hormones kick in at the teen years and it all goes to hell from there.

[innerkitty]

Sometimes literally. All love seems to do is complicate things or get you hurt. My ex-husband was good at that.

[meanwhileback]

Society has made us all promises that reality can't deliver on. This is also the reason that alcohol is so popular, and why people are now having midlife crises in their 20s.

[innerkitty]

Especially when it come to that cross-species romantic vampire love thing. They're more likely to love you for dinner than glitter on you. It never works out.

[meanwhileback]

Thankfully I cannot speak from experience on that, but uh. Why anybody would do anything but run screaming from a one of those, I do not know. Unless you're like Buffy or something, then you're also allowed the option of kicking the shit out of and subsequently staking vampires through the heart.

...I have a lot of feelings about the undead, alright.

[kashaph]

— it seems nice?

( weak answer, but it's not like they've got any experience on the subject. )

[innerkitty]

Nice? Don't tell me you're one of those happily ever after types.

[peratic]

Same reason they jump out of airplanes. Or try cocaine. Those surges in norepinephrine and dopamine are pretty irresistible.