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[innerkitty]

Why is it people are always so eager to fall in love?

[Every time she's witnessed or been involved in love, it's just been a lot of pain for both parties.]

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[gulistan]

Lots of reasons, I'd guess. The evolutionary drive of pack animals; a pair with a common goal has it easier than a loner. Books and movies make it look like the pinnacle of life's experiences. They're afraid of being lonely. They think love means happiness, or they mistake it for infatuation.

But I don't know. I've known a lot of people who do everything they can to avoid falling in love, and they seem to get it the worst. Maybe being open to it is a form of self-preservation.

[innerkitty]

See, and that's why pack animals are stupid. You can get plenty of companionship without needing to bare your heart like that. I'd rather live my life with a series of one night stands.

[gulistan]

It's not stupid, per se, it's just driven by what is survival-oriented instead of what is about protecting yourself emotionally. Those are instincts that are more about food than feelings. In fact, one could theorize humans developed those feelings to promote more pair bonding.

I've never had so much as a one night stand, though, so I can only speculate.

Sorry, this has been a rough week, lol

[innerkitty]

And through the centuries all it's done is cause varying degrees of pain. Cheating and death, ripping your heart out when they leave. You don't exactly need a lasting partner to be able to have children if that's what you want. Hell, my sister does just fine with just her and her girls.

Oh, you should give it a try. It's thrilling in all the right ways.